I still can’t believe I’m writing this but I AM ENGAGED!! It was the most romantic thing and was more than I could have ever dreamed of. We had planned a trip to Duluth and I had no idea he was going to propose! He even had Daisy in on the action which of course was the cutest of all. But, as I said yes and we drove around looking at the fall colors and I was staring at my beautiful ring, I was thinking about the years that lead me to this point in my life. I have had so many heartbreaks, had ideas of who I would one day want to marry, and thinking that the reason I had any value was because a guy told me. (STUPID I KNOW) But, I wanted to take this moment to reiterate something that took me years to understand, it’s so important to wait for the right one.

I used to be in a relationship where everything was such an emotional rollercoaster that I thought it was “perfect”. I think it was so intense emotional wise that I was blinded by the idea that it isn’t really supposed to be that way. I thought that all of the high highs and low lows meant that we were really in love. I thought that “the one” meant being so invested in the relationship you lose sight of who you are as a person outside of the relationship. That’s where I was SO so wrong.

It’s funny because when Tyler and I started dating I actually questioned it a few times because we didn’t have the high highs and low lows. We didn’t have arguments that were so heated it dragged on for weeks at a time and made us say things just to hurt the other. I wasn’t crying all the time thinking that he wasn’t being truthful or faithful. I was so sure that this relationship wasn’t it because it wasn’t “true love”. The reality is, I was so far off on what true love really is. With Tyler, things are constant. We respect each other’s opinions, feelings, and thoughts. We apologize when we are wrong because we would rather be okay than right. We encourage each other’s dreams and remind each other of our skills when we are insecure. We are alike but different in all the right ways. We compliment each other in ways that make our relationship work so well. He makes me feel safe, respected, loved, content, happy, and all the mushy gushy words you can think of.

I guess I just want someone to read this and be reminded that they don’t have to stay with someone who makes them feel unvalued, feel not enough, feel like you have to work so hard to get one little piece of loved. I want you to love yourself enough to wait for the person who will love you even more!! Thank you everyone for all of the well wishes and congratulations, we very much appreciate it!!


Emily Avdem

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