It’s come to my attention that most of my readers are struggling with one common demon; insecurities. It always hurts my heart a little bit knowing that my readers are hurting and thinking that they aren’t worthy. It makes me sad to think that some of the most beautiful, intelligent, and talented people I know, don’t know it. That’s always been so incredibly devastating to me. But, let me be clear, I’m the same way. I get insecure and I forget my worth. I look to others for compliments and forget that the most important one comes from within me.
I have done a blog post about self-confidence before and really gave all of my best tips but when more of my requests revolved around the same topic, I realized that just because those tips work for me does not mean they work for everyone. So, I started to reach out. I contacted a handful of people in my life who I see as positive, confident, strong, and incredible and asked what their best advice was for being self-confident, body positive, and a huge self-love advocate. Here they are!
1.Change the self-talk.
This one came from almost every single person so I thought it was important that I put it first! The things that you are saying in your head become what you see. If you continue to say that you’re “fat”, what do you think you’ll see in the mirror? The extra weight in your hips or the strong and toned legs? Start to be conscious of what you’re saying to yourself and start changing the negative comments. Be genuine in your compliments to yourself and soon you’ll find a lot of comfort in them. I’m serious. If you’re going to take any of these tips, take this one. Take it and run with it. Be kind to yourself and be your biggest fan!
2. You only have one body.
I think sometimes we forget the importance of taking care of our bodies because we forget it’s the only one we have. If you have this body for the rest of your life, don’t you want to take care of it the best way you can? If you do things that make your body able and healthy now, it will be the same when you’re a lot older! Take care of the body you were given!
3. Your inner circle = you.
The people you surround yourself can become you or you become fragments of them! So, whether that is positive or negative really depends on who these people are. If you surround yourself with confident, supportive, encouraging, strong, and loving people you become the same way! If you surround yourself with negative people, you’ll become the same way! So, be intentional, and choose wisely. *another point within this is that if you are attracted/pulled to someone, chances are you possess the same qualities you like in them! So, give yourself a pat on the back for being confident, supportive, encouraging, strong, and loving too!
4. If you don’t like something, change it.
This is linked with every single tip in this post and it’s pretty dang important. You can’t sit around and complain about things you aren’t happy with because they won’t disappear on their own. If you don’t like the people you are hanging out with, stop hanging out with them. Find new, better people to surround yourself with. If you don’t like how your body feels after eating candy, dial it down a bit on the Snickers honey. If you feel groggy, go to the gym and get your butt on the elliptical. Things can’t be better if you continue to sulk in the negative. So, get up and do something about it.
5. People don’t care.
When you’re walking around the grocery store or putting on gas or walking to class, are you really looking at every single person and critiquing everything about them? No, probably not. So, stop worrying that everyone else is doing that to you! *another tip in this is to tell people compliments when you genuinely feel them. It’ll make you happy AND people will start doing the same to you!
6. Listen & believe the people you love.
I think we often do get genuine compliments from people but we just don’t believe them or let them go in one ear and out the other. If we truly listened and believed these kind comments from the people we loved, we would start feeling a whole lot better! These people who are close to us see us better than anyone else can, so we should really listen to them.
7. Be knowledgable about nutrition.
In order to truly give your body the nutrition and vitamins it needs you need to understand what qualifies as such! Do some research, ask experts, and do some experiments! If you are misinformed on what is nutritional you can end up hurting your body when you think you are helping it. Get your hands dirty and find some info!
I really hope these tips help you in one way or another because I wanted to really reach outward to other people to get you even more tips and advice! All of you are so dang beautiful in your own way and I truly want you all to know that in your own hearts. If you have any questions or just want to talk feel free to reach out to me!