People differ in so many ways, especially when it comes to their roles and labels. For instance, some people are daughters, sons, cousins, boyfriends, girlfriends, sisters, brothers, classmates, peers, students, teachers, and so on but one thing that all of us have in common is that we are all a friend to at least one person. We all have to figure out how to be that someone for someone else. We have to try and build our friendships to a place that’s better than where it is today.
I asked a lot of people what they thought a good friend did or was like and I received so many great answers. I asked people because I wanted to get a good sense of what people thought before I made this post because just because I think something is important, doesn’t necessarily mean other people do too! I’m one type of person and one type of friend but there are so many other types out there! So if I only gave my advice it wouldn’t necessarily help you be a good friend to all of your different types of friends. Here are some of the answers I received:
I wanted to think about all of these answers and come up with some ways/things that will help you portray these characteristics to your friends. Friendships are so dang important and in order for you to receive characteristics and actions like this you must first give them. How do you expect your friends to treat you in ways that you don’t even treat them? Here goes my best tips for being a good friend!
I think often times we get so engrossed in our own lives that we forget about really paying attention to the people we care about. If you truly paid attention to them you will notice if there is something wrong or off by their tone, body language, or expressions. It means you can’t just hear them say something is wrong, you have to watch and initiate the conversation yourself.
2. Agree to Disagree.
Obviously two individuals can’t agree all of the time because we are all raised so differently in different environments and situations. Being a good friend means that even though you don’t agree on something you can respectfully disagree without saying harsh things that are hurtful.
3. Meet In The Middle.
Along with the tip above, you won’t agree on things and sometimes that means doing things you don’t necessarily want to do because it means a lot to the other person. Just like I’m sure if the roles were reversed you would be touched if your friend went to a play with you even though you know they HATE plays but they do it happily because you love it. It is a lot of give and take when it comes to friendships but it’s not about keeping score either.
4. Being A Cheerleader Even When You Don’t Understand The Game
This one is really important and one I’ve come to find especially near and dear to me. When I started blogging there were a lot of people who didn’t really understand what it was or why I was doing it but that didn’t stop them for telling me it was cool or commenting sweet things on them. It meant so much to me that they were rooting for me even when they didn’t really understand what I was doing! You don’t have to understand what they are doing to be happy for them. If you see that they are happy then that should be all you need!
5. Be A Listener and An Advice Giver
There is such a perfect balance between being a good listener and being able to give some advice to your friends. Sometimes your friends will need some tough love in order to get over a heartbreak or they might need a hug and silence. You have to know when is the right time to do what because it can make or break a friendship! You don’t always want someone giving you advice about your life do you? You sometimes want to just talk and vent to someone who is truly listening.
6. Stop Judgement
We’ve all been in situations where we did something we weren’t really proud of and we honestly just needed someone to be there for us. We didn’t need that judgmental expression and pointed finger making us feel any more crappy than we already do. Instead, a good friend gives you comfort instead of the judgement! It’s healthy because then you both know you can go to each other no matter what without fear of being shamed.
7. Expressing That You Care
There are so many ways to express your love and affection for your friends that will show them you care. You can spend money to buy them thoughtful gifts or you can use your creativity to make them something they’ll cherish forever or use your words to describe how much they really mean to you. It’s not hard to come up with little ways to make them feel special and loved and everyone deserves to feel that way!
I hope this blog post makes you excited to start being a better friend and cherishing the ones who do these amazing things every single day for you! Sometimes we have to take a second to realize that being a friend doesn’t just mean hanging out and doing fun things, it’s about being there for someone, encouraging them, loving them, and comprising with them. I bet you have people in your life that are worth doing all of those things for so make a list of them and start showing it!