I was really nervous to make a blog post about this topic because I didn’t know how judgmental or cruel people would react but then I just reminded myself that I wanted to put this blog post out there because I want other girls or guys to read this and know that it’s okay. I want them to know that there are other people out there who are waiting and are choosing to be particular with who they have sex with. When I was younger and trying to navigate these decisions I wish I would have had someone to look up to and be supported to stay with this decision.
For me, this choice has nothing to do with religion and I have actually never been told at church, Sunday school, or confirmation that I should wait. This was a choice I made early on in my life and have just really stuck with it. I want to explain my reasoning for waiting so that other people can read it and hopefully feel comforted in the fact that they aren’t alone or they are inspired to do the same.
If you are waiting too you might relate to the things people have said to me and how hurtful it can be. I normally get comments like “so are you like….waiting for marriage?” (mind you with the most judgmental tone and expression) or “why?!” and those are just a few! It always just stings a little bit because I am always so supportive of other people’s choices even though they are different than mine and I believe they should do the same.
The reason I’m waiting is honestly just because I haven’t found anyone worth giving it up to. My mom always told me it was something that once you give away you would never be able to truly get back again and I just kept that in the back of my mind throughout the years. I wanted it to be something that was really special and worth waiting for. I also know that personally I am a really sensitive person and I don’t think I could have handled giving it to someone who completely cut ties with me once he got what he wanted. Another reason I’m waiting is because I’ve heard that it’s not necessarily very enjoyable the first time and if that’s the case I want it to be with someone who makes it the most comfortable it can be for me and isn’t in it for just selfish reasons.
If you take anything from this blog post I want it to be that you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to, even if other people are pressuring you or judging you. It’s YOUR life and it’s up to you to make decisions that are best for YOU. I want you to pursue things you truly want and not what someone else makes you think you want.
If you have any questions about this blog post or want to conversate about this topic I would be more than happy to!